Love and Separation

"IF WE CAN LOVE SOMEONE SO MUCH, HOW WILL WE BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT WHEN WE ARE SEPARATED ONE DAY?"

"IF SEPARATION IS PART OF LIFE,WILL WE BE ABLE TO LOVE SOMEBODY WITHOUT BEING AFRAID OF BEING SEPARATED?"

"WILL WE BE ABLE TO LIVE WITHOUT LOVING SOMEONE?"

These questions have really got me thinking today. I never imagined that I will be faced with such questions, where I do not have a straight answer myself. To be honest, these questions aren't my own, but I got it from a movie I was watching. It's amazing how these questions were raised but were left unanswered. As a result, I have decided to write about these questions.

Based on experience,it really hurts to be separated from people one is close with. I, for one, can attest to that. Almost all my life, I have experienced moving from one place to another. I guess, that is, perhaps, the reason why the weight of these question, to me, are great. It was also one of the contributing factor for the development of a barrier, a defense mechanism, and fear of developing close ties. More often than not, I tend to shun people out of my life. very few people are able to penetrate this huge and thick wall I have created. I guess I turned out to be fastidious especially when it comes to relationships.

"IF WE CAN LOVE SOMEONE SO MUCH, HOW WILL WE BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT WHEN WE ARE SEPARATED ONE DAY?"

One thing I learned is that there is a way to bear it. It all depends on one's coping mechanism. Here are various ways...

1.) Keeping oneself busy to avoid thinking of the pain. This is one of the most common way of coping. This is even used in the movies. Spending one's time and energy to something productive is good; however, doing it without life is like being a zombie. It's similar to what Bella did when Edward left (New Moon).

2.) Keeping to oneself and just forget about everyone else. This is another form of coping which I personally believe is ineffective. Without anyone or anything to keep your ind away from things, more likely than not, one will be forced to think of the pain again.

3.) Contemplating what might have been wrong and correcting it.Trying to make oneself a better personis a characteristic of people who are strong enough to bear the pain. This, however, doesn't guarantee that it will be painless but at least by accepting the circumstance it reduces the gravity of the pain.

There are other ways to cope. And very few are effective.

"IF SEPARATION IS PART OF LIFE,WILL WE BE ABLE TO LOVE SOMEBODY WITHOUT BEING AFRAID OF BEING SEPARATED?"

I don't think that this is possible because one's a person loves, they tend to wish to be with that person always whether it be a friend or someone special.


"WILL WE BE ABLE TO LIVE WITHOUT LOVING SOMEONE?"

We could. but livinf without loving is lonely. No one to talk to, no one to share one's happiness, no one to celebrate with, and no one to cry one's heart out.

In conclusion, I believe that it is best to feel the pain of separation and learning from it than not experiencing the pain but feeling a great void because of not loving at all. I guess, that's what makes us become human.